Silly girl question :-p

[CollegeCatholic]

So, being the socially-inept engineering student that I am.. where else am I to turn for help in real life situations?  The Interwebs, of course!

So, the story is, there's this girl on my floor (actually, she lives with our RA across the hall).  She runs in different social circles than I do, but I'm of the opinion that it'd be a pretty cool thing to get to know her (if.. y'know, she's interested, too), if at the very least to meet new people from my class/floor (our residence hall floors on campus are relatively tight-knit). 

Because it's an all-girl room, and I only sort of know our RA (Residence Assistant, sorry), I'm absolutely at a dead-end as to how to engage this girl in conversation.  (Side note:  Our school has an "open doors" policy, where most of the floor keeps their doors open most of the time.)  I've considered just walking in and talking to her and the RA, but that seems rather forward and way too intimidating. 

Additionally, I'm not the BEST at small talk, but I can do decently well. 

So, if any one has some deep or great insight as to how to strike up a conversation with this girl, I'd greatly appreciate it.  Or just general recommendations in interacting with girls I don't already know (engineering school's 80/20 guy-girl ratio doesn't help!   ) would also be greatly appreciated. 

Thanks much.

PS - Don't laugh.  I know this post is lame.   

[DarkKnight]

I don't see anything "too forward" about walking across the hall and striking up a conversation. It is considerably more restraing than what many of your fellow students walk up to complete strangers and strike up.

At the very worst it will show that you have a back bone and are interested.

[OCLittleFlower]

I don't see anything "too forward" about walking across the hall and striking up a conversation. It is considerably more restraing than what many of your fellow students walk up to complete strangers and strike up.

At the very worst it will show that you have a back bone and are interested.

This.

Or, if you're too nervous to do that and seem confidant, go over to ask the RA something, and then if the girl you like is around, strike up a convo...or go looking for the RA when you know she isn't home, but the girl you like is.

[CollegeCatholic]

I don't see anything "too forward" about walking across the hall and striking up a conversation. It is considerably more restraing than what many of your fellow students walk up to complete strangers and strike up.

At the very worst it will show that you have a back bone and are interested.

This.

Or, if you're too nervous to do that and seem confidant, go over to ask the RA something, and then if the girl you like is around, strike up a convo...or go looking for the RA when you know she isn't home, but the girl you like is.

Okeedoke.  I suppose that would work.

So, like, for the first case (just walkin straight over), being "Hey <name>, how's it goin?  Got any fun plans for break?"  would be acceptable? 

OC:  I like your idea too.  Especially since I DO need to ask my RA a question.    

Thanks much!

[Herr_Mannelig]

So, being the socially-inept engineering student that I am.. where else am I to turn for help in real life situations?  The Interwebs, of course!

So, the story is, there's this girl on my floor (actually, she lives with our RA across the hall).  She runs in different social circles than I do, but I'm of the opinion that it'd be a pretty cool thing to get to know her (if.. y'know, she's interested, too), if at the very least to meet new people from my class/floor (our residence hall floors on campus are relatively tight-knit). 

Because it's an all-girl room, and I only sort of know our RA (Residence Assistant, sorry), I'm absolutely at a dead-end as to how to engage this girl in conversation.  (Side note:  Our school has an "open doors" policy, where most of the floor keeps their doors open most of the time.)  I've considered just walking in and talking to her and the RA, but that seems rather forward and way too intimidating. 

Additionally, I'm not the BEST at small talk, but I can do decently well. 

So, if any one has some deep or great insight as to how to strike up a conversation with this girl, I'd greatly appreciate it.  Or just general recommendations in interacting with girls I don't already know (engineering school's 80/20 guy-girl ratio doesn't help!   ) would also be greatly appreciated. 

Girls don't like too much coyness. When in doubt, be forward.

Women love to be intrigued. They enjoy unraveling the mystery that is man, but you must allow them the freedom to discover you.

What I'd do. I'd walk up to her, look her in the eye(s) and ask "What distro do you use?". If she answers a *nix which is not OS X, then she'll find that perfectly normal and acceptable. If she uses Windows or OS X, she'll be confused and think you are weird, but that is a good thing: she saved you time letting you know earlier on.

Now, for the literal reaction:

So, the story is, there's this girl on my floor

I'd recommend testing for breathing/heart rate and injury. If she is physically fine, get some people in to witness the goings on, and call for emergency help. If she is not alive, then you are in trouble. No one is going to believe you. You have to get a shovel, some bags and a lot of sodium hydroxide. Don't tell anyone!

[Herr_Mannelig]

So, like, for the first case (just walkin straight over), being "Hey <name>, how's it goin?  Got any fun plans for break?"  would be acceptable? 

I'd recommend not doing something you wouldn't normally do. Don't pretend to be anyone else. You just have to find how YOU should approach this appropriate for the situation.

Find out her interests (there is a fine line between interested query and creep stalker, so be conservative about this), or classes and use that possibly as the basis for the opening line.

So, if any one has some deep or great insight as to how to strike up a conversation with this girl, I'd greatly appreciate it.  Or just general recommendations in interacting with girls I don't already know (engineering school's 80/20 guy-girl ratio doesn't help!   ) would also be greatly appreciated.

Try something unique and personal. You have a lot of competition from possibly not so platonic people. Try a well written message and a way for her to contact you. You may not want to be too casual.

[Tulkas]

So, the story is, there's this girl on my floor

I'd recommend testing for breathing/heart rate and injury. If she is physically fine, get some people in to witness the goings on, and call for emergency help. If she is not alive, then you are in trouble. No one is going to believe you. You have to get a shovel, some bags and a lot of sodium hydroxide. Don't tell anyone!

Oh, she is probably passed out drunk.  It is college you know.  Take a picture and put it on a website that has drunk people pictures.  That is what everyone else does I guess.

[CanadianCatholic]

Now, for the literal reaction:

So, the story is, there's this girl on my floor

I'd recommend testing for breathing/heart rate and injury. If she is physically fine, get some people in to witness the goings on, and call for emergency help. If she is not alive, then you are in trouble. No one is going to believe you. You have to get a shovel, some bags and a lot of sodium hydroxide. Don't tell anyone!

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  good one rosie!

[Herr_Mannelig]

So, the story is, there's this girl on my floor

I'd recommend testing for breathing/heart rate and injury. If she is physically fine, get some people in to witness the goings on, and call for emergency help. If she is not alive, then you are in trouble. No one is going to believe you. You have to get a shovel, some bags and a lot of sodium hydroxide. Don't tell anyone!

Oh, she is probably passed out drunk.  It is college you know.  Take a picture and put it on a website that has drunk people pictures.  That is what everyone else does I guess.

Don't forget the Sharpies!

But seriously...

CollegeCatholic, most encounters end in failure, so even if you behave "perfectly", the chance of failure is there. Failure is a good thing, as it wouldn't have worked anyway (hence, it failed). So, the only thing you can expect is success, which is just extra, so you have nothing to lose except money.

[Baskerville]

How well do you know her? Do you know her name?

[WhollyRoaminCatholic]

I suggest giving blood that day, then tossing back 2 cold shots of vodka first.  That's what I did when I proposed to Mrs. WRC, and it worked with her.

[Herr_Mannelig]

I suggest giving blood that day, then tossing back 2 cold shots of vodka first.  That's what I did when I proposed to Mrs. WRC, and it worked with her.

What about when you first met her? Being light headed and "relaxed" may not be suitable for a first date. Congratulation on the marriage though

[SoCalLocal]

Why not just be direct?

If you don't know her at all, when you see her, just say, "Hi. We've never been introduced. I'm Dweebly McNerd. It's always nice to meet the neighbors."

If you do know her name, when you see her, ask her something like, "Do you know very many people on our floor? It's so hard to get to know people now - everybody's tied up on facebook and twitter. I hardly know anyone." If she's interested, she'll agree with you. Then it's up to you to not fumble the ball.

Just remember, women are human too. They want to meet a guy as much as guys want to meet gals.

   

[DarkKnight]

I suggest giving blood that day, then tossing back 2 cold shots of vodka first.  That's what I did when I proposed to Mrs. WRC, and it worked with her.

How did you get the future Mrs. WRC to give blood?

[serviam]

I suggest giving blood that day, then tossing back 2 cold shots of vodka first.  That's what I did when I proposed to Mrs. WRC, and it worked with her.

I wish I would have thought of this. I was extremely nervous. Could've used the vodka.