What about "mixed" marriages between trads and NO Catholics? Ican easily foresee some problems that might occurr.
Anyone who knows something about that?
That is the situation I am in now. It is difficult. Strangely, it is in many ways more difficult than when DW was protestant and I was a secular Jew. We had much less to argue about. I wanted her to raise our kids - then just one - Christian but had no interest in matters of faith. When we both converted and became NO Catholics I leap-frogged her and took a much greater interest. Now that I consider myself a traditional Catholic and she remains attached to our local NO parish we do have problems.
For instance, yesterday I accompanied her to the NO Mass as I do every month when our DD sings in the choir. I tried very hard to behave but, with DW being sensitive to my reactions, problems occurred. While people were still in line for communion, the lector interrupted the silence to announce, "as we approach the table lets us sing One Bread, One Life." I let out an ‘Al Gore’ sigh, which DW later used to label me as judgmental and overly critical.
An even better example would be what happened after the NO Mass. In the narthex a table was set up for parishioners to sign up to attend a seder to reenact the Last Supper. DW and DD ventured into the parish hall to talk while I spent the next thirty minutes arguing with the people at the table explaining how offensive the seder is and why it is illicit. I am nearly certain that I convinced a few people of how wrong it is for Catholics to participate in even a fake seder. Well, the person I didn't convince was DW, who thought I made a spectacle. “ I could hear you all arguing from 40 yards away.”
So the problem in our instance is that the NO Catholic thinks the trad is judgmental and prone to public admonishments.
In the home we have no problems. We have similar instincts about popular culture and our duties as Catholics. Our devotions are different but I do not judge her in any way. She is saintly in my book and I am blessed to be married to her.
What kinds of problems can you foresee Varus?