So he's the one-trick pony type.
Maybe he performs at the hootenany masses on Sunday night. Where the only ones in church with ponytails and earrings are the men.
In all seriousness, doesn't it bother you what a joke the Novus Ordo Missae has become? No reverence. Profane music. Lack of respect for the Glory of God. Not to mention how it's more like a protestant prayer meeting than anything remotely Catholic.
Well, certainly. But that is only because I have seen real Catholicism and the real Mass. When all someone sees is these wacky things and the bishops are telling them it's good Catholic behavior, one doesn't know better.
It's not like God comes down and taps us on the shoulder and says, "This is bad."
Now, I must confess I have hair past my shoulders (never in a pony tail in public - I'm a headbanger, not a hippy), and while I do not wear earrings anymore, my left ear is pierced four times. That just makes me an idiot, and has nothing to do with my love for Christ and Church. We can deal with my grooming issues at another time.... 
Though he has thrown the first stone, let him throw. I am convinced we are better than the mudslingers who call us names, and we should extend charity. If someone's issue is they don't know anything better, we should take the opportunity to show them why we believe this, then they can make an informed decision.
Zenobius, if you feel uncomfortable asking on the forum, you are welcome to PM me and we can begin an exchange by e-mail. As long as we keep the discussion civil, I have no objection to answering your questions.