I was brought up in Western Pennsylvania. When I got married and moved south I noticed that people hold hands during Mass when the Our Father is said then raise them higher for the last part of the prayer. We never did this in my old Parish and they still don't. Is this something that is common? I am in the military and parishioners hold hands. I just don't feel right holding hands. So I simply I fold my hands and lower my head in reverence. What is proper? To tell you the truth there is a lot I don't feel comfortable with. I once attended a funeral at a Russian Orthodox Church and I felt more comfortable. In fact the mass was beautiful.
Both are common at NO Masses; neither is proper. Hand-holding is inappropriate for the liturgy, and the raising of the hands is a gesture proper to the priest and not the laity. Even the Vatican has said this, but nobody listens.
So I simply I fold my hands and lower my head in reverence.
That's also what I do, except I'm usually holding my missal and praying everything quietly in Latin.
Something else I gather people do during the Our Father is hold their hand out in the "Orans position", I think it's called.
Not my scene!
It's big in the People's Republick of Kahlefornistan and in the Free State of Nevada as well.
I can't stand it.
Was that by any chance in Stamford Ct?
Thanks for all the great comments. I don't feel alone anymore. Some of the other things I've started to notice since I have become more and more interested in traditionalism: the lack of genuflection when entering the pew, talking out loud before and after Mass. I'm planning on attending Christmas Mas in a near by German town. Maybe I'll see a difference there.
Thank you everyone and have a wonderful Christmas