Dilemma abut my future

[kmomto6]

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Finish school.
I understand your desire to get married and start that chapter in your life. It's easy to sit amongst all the textbooks and exams and ridiculous university behavior and wax fantastic about your little home and hearth and sweet smelling babies and a darling husband. Grass is always greener.
I was exactly where you are and I left school. I had intended on continuing after marriage but became pregnant and very sick right away and school never happened. Life moved on, more babies came, dh's career took many turns, we moved quite a bit, often away from a support network. I've continued my education, I even was blessed with opportunity to teach at a hospital (hired on my experience and continuing education even without my degree) but I've never gotten my RN.
I do not regre marrying my dh, he is the love of my life. If I hadn't married him when I did I wouldn't have the children God intended me to have today. I am going to go back to school, I am going to get my BSN and RN but it's going to be a WHOLE LOT harder to do it now than if I had just stuck it out back when I was 20.

Get engaged. Make if official. Plan that wedding. Just make the date right after you graduate.
Sure, you could get married tomorrow and not get pregnant for years or you could be me and get pregnant right away and be incapacitated and not be able to dress yourself every day let alone participate in classes.
No matter where life takes you, you will always have that degree and it will open doors for you. God Forbid anything happens to your dh, you will have a way to support yourself and family and (not knowing anything about your relationship) what if in another year you decide he is THE one and you have already dropped out of school??  Down the road should things change you can always drop out, but if you do drop out and things change it will be much harder to get back into the student-groove.

God Bless.

[AdoramusTeChriste]

Get engaged. Make if official. Plan that wedding. Just make the date right after you graduate.

 

Perfect.

 

Lovely Katie, we want to know all the details, too.

[liliaagri]

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It's easy to sit amongst all the textbooks and exams and ridiculous university behavior and wax fantastic about your little home and hearth and sweet smelling babies and a darling husband.

Been there. There was nothing like college that made me want to give up college.

[Sophia]

Future Legislation could easily mandate that you have to be a certified educator or possess a degree in order to do that.

Depending on what state you are in, this is already a mandate.

 

You've gotten some excellent advice, here.  I'll add one more thing- if your boyfriend isn't ready to get married because he isn't ready to support you financially, that is a definite reason to postpone it.  Hopefully, he's working his butt off so that becomes a reality sooner than later.   A full scholarship?  Don't throw that away!

[LuciaRosa]

I'm a college junior myself, but the only thing I can think of to add to all the good advice is that education has intrinsic value, in addition to all the practical reasons why you might need it.

[spasiisochrani]

Another reason for completing your education: Teenagers all tend to think that their parents are stupid.  You want to be well-educated so that they take you seriously.

[newtolatin]

As a homeschooling mother: finish your college. You have two more years left? What are you studying? Why do you think you might have to do a couple of extra semesters?

You have a scholarship: use it. Get the best degree you can. Try to get either a teacher's certificate (when I went to school, those were the most unbelievably boring classes) or else study either something that you can earn a lot of money with (business statistics analysis or similar) or something that will allow you to do something at home (whatever will allow you to do something like proofreading and editing, translation, that type of thing). IOW, choose something that will allow you the most flexibility should anything happen which would require you to work.

Take an extra course or two per semester so that you don't have that extra time at the end or maybe do summer school. I considered 18 credits normal and sometimes took 21. Talk to your guidance counselor to see how this works out.

Also, I would say that as long as your parents are supporting you and you are living with them, you need to obey them. If your boyfriend hasn't proposed because of financial reasons, it seems like he is not ready to support you right now and you two should wait a bit anyway.

I would also consider making all decisions with an eye to your future, even if by chance it ends up not being with your boyfriend. For example, if you buy a car, don't buy a fancy little sports car: buy a good sedan. Can you get a job that is ... better on your resume—or an internship? —that can get you experience in your field and even provide the potential for working at home in the future? While you are thinking, well, gee, I plan to stay home... it would be good for you to work and the two of you set that money aside so you have some savings (do not use it for expenses or you will get used to too-expensive a lifestyle) in the early part of your marriage.

With so many 2-income families, prices of everything have shot through the roof. Completely aside from anything bad happening, it may just be that it will be necessary for you to bring in some income so as to be able to afford a house, or if your husband wants to start a business... you just never know what the future will bring. Recall that your state of life right now is student and daughter, and focus on that—prudently, of course ;) Your parents are looking out for ya! they made those sacrifices for you.

[Karianne]

Please honor the request of your parents and stay in school at the schoold that they are willing to help you with. There's no reason why you can't be a better educated mom when you homeschool.

Also, while many folks have regretted marrying in haste, I have never heard of anyone saying, "darn, I wish that I had not wasted all that time getting an education!". In this world, those who have the gold make the rules and at this time your parents are providing all of your basic needs, therefore, they have a right to tell you what to do, and, just for a moment, IMAGINE that both of your parents died tonight and you were left alone to make all of your decisions, that's what happened to me when I was younger than you.

 

Your parents have your best interests at heart, there is plenty of time to marry and have kids, but right now, because you HAVE the opportunity, don't waste it.