Let's translate this so that we evil young male "Trads" who live in our parents' basements and criticize women all day on internet fora understand:
(Disclaimer: Not to be taken too seriously)
Originally Posted by
Sophia:
I couldn't speak for Carole, Stevus, but some of the qualities I would want for my daughters (who are not close yet to marriageable age) would be:
- someone with a stable job or who at least knows what he wants to do and is working towards that,
I want a rich guy.
-someone who knows the true meaning of headship over his family and who will not treat his wife like a child, but as his own flesh and blood. He will view his wife as his helpmate and not his servant, and as a person who has real desires and needs apart from his own.
Someone who will look like a dominant manly figure to the outside world, but in the household the wife pulls the reins.
-someone who is secure enough in his own masculinity that he doesn't feel the need to put others down, especially women, and those weaker than him,
See above.
-someone who loves children, and isn't afraid to be an affectionate father toward his own,
A man who will do the "mothering" when the wife isn't in the mood.
-someone who is not above picking up the slack in the household work when his wife is unable to keep up. He will not view changing a diaper to be an affront to his masculinity, nor will he sit on his rear pontificating online while the roof needs to be patched, or the cars fixed.
A man who will do the wife's work around the house, his own house work, and his full-time+ job, while the wife complains about how brutal the first of those three are, even though she doesn't have an outside job at all.
-above all, he will have a strong faith, and will not dump his job to educate his children on his wife's shoulders alone.
In conclusion, the man will do every task with regard to house work and child-rearing, and not complain about it, and look manly while he does it, and appear to be "in charge" while out in public, and find additional time to "be holy" and do what it takes (say, working 60 hours a week) to maintain a well-paying job.
That's all a tall order, I know, but naturally I want the best for my children.
Let's hope they choose the religious life.
Addendum by diotima:
Sounds like the bare minimum to expect in a spouse to me - NOT a tall order.
In addition to the above, I want my man to be at least 6'0 tall, have a full and thick head of hair (not balding nor any signs of it), a defined jawline, a chiseled torso and broad shoulders.
