Thank you all so much for your replies and welcome! I look forward to learning much here. My sons don't serve. When the oldest was the right age, we were concerned a little by the scandal [husband said 'no way']. My son also didn't want to get up at 5 am. My other son doesn't serve because the parish we are in now is a bit too "hip" as I mentioned earlier. Though he doesn't serve, he is very very interested in all things Catholic, and asks me mind-bending questions daily. He keeps me busy looking stuff up. I hope you all can help me answer some of these! It makes me realize how badly educated I was in regards to the Faith in all my Catholic schooling.