Why foreign women make better wives?

[veritas]

My beef is strictly with men that seek this type of woman out thinking they will be getting a servant girl, complete with benefits.

I have a beef with that too. It shows a distinct lack of respect to the women themselves and to their role as wife.

The other thing that I mentioned before was men wanting to take a foreign woman to America where she has no friends or family and has to rely on him for everything.  That's often what happens in most marriages of this kind,  and obviously it is a kind of sacrifice.  But its a known fact that abusers intentionally try to cut their spouse off from all friends and family so that all contact is filtered through the abuser.  Of course that is not to say that most men who look elsewhere for wives are abusive...but the situation would be appealing to an abuser.  Just sayin'

It is a very appealing situation for abusers to seek out these women but it can go both ways. Many come here just to marry for the green card. I have a friend who was stupid and got stuck in that very situation. Funny thing is that my friend is a woman who married a Polish national and as soon as their "time" was up, he took off leaving her in an awkward legal lurch. She is now tied up in legal red tape and will be for quite some time.

[ErinIsNotNice]

You didn't, but Erin's on a roll so...

I'm wondering if maybe someday she'll let Mr.NotNice use the cipherin' machine between loads of laundry and we can hear his side of things.

Fortunately for me he "hates the internet"
Besides, his side of things is that I'm the best wife ever.

[QuisUtDeus]

You didn't, but Erin's on a roll so...

I'm wondering if maybe someday she'll let Mr.NotNice use the cipherin' machine between loads of laundry and we can hear his side of things.

Fortunately for me he "hates the internet"

A likely story...  Next you'll tell me he loves folding laundry and driving a Volkswagen.  Harumph.

Besides, his side of things is that I'm the best wife ever.

OK, I can actually believe he thinks that.  He's obviously mistaken, though, because Vox is the best wife ever!

[ErinIsNotNice]

He does love folding (I'm not kidding, he's clearly crazy because folding is the worst household chore ever) but I do not know how he feels about Volkswagens.  I just wish one of us loved ironing.  Sigh.  We're a very wrinkled family

[QuisUtDeus]

He does love folding (I'm not kidding, he's clearly crazy because folding is the worst household chore ever)

I vote for pairing socks as the worst.

I just wish one of us loved ironing.  Sigh.  We're a very wrinkled family

Start brainwashing the kids now.  Buy them a toy iron and tell them how much fun it is!

[gjwalberg]

A likely story...  Next you'll tell me he loves folding laundry and driving a Volkswagen.  Harumph.

And pink shirts.

I like how this thread has turned out.

For the record, I cook dinner at our house 5 days a week, do all my own laundry, vacuum, mow, tend the garden, repair & remodel our half-century-old house (we purchase our nails, thankyouverymuch), clean house, make the bed, do the grocery shopping, take out the trash and poop the dog at every usual time in the schedule.

For her part, my lovely wife washes the dog at her leisure and earns 150% of my pay.  While I've typed this, I've gone over my homework for my night class; she's on the couch reading the paper and watching television.

Our home is not like your home.

[Catholicdad]

As a single parent (and previously, while a batchelor, husband, and married father) I cooked, cleaned, sewed, etc., but I'VE NEVER understood this.

The "normal" position is "up" and I will not be converted on this one!

[veritas]

I am happy when he puts down the toilet seat

As a single parent (and previously, while a batchelor, husband, and married father) I cooked, cleaned, sewed, etc., but I'VE NEVER understood this.

The "normal" position is "up" and I will not be converted on this one!

Well, you haven't gone to the restroom in the middle of the night and sat down upon a toilet without its seat down and cracked your tailbone... I have and it hurts like hell for months.

And before I hear anything from any guy saying it is my fault for not looking to see if it was down, I live alone and I am not used to having to look. I was raised as an only child and I grew up with my own bathroom. It does not occur to my female mind that at 3a, in a semi sleepy stupor, looking is a necessity when I am just simply not used to having a man around.

[Baskerville]

It's because most Western women have become infected by the feminist movement, pop culture, and greed (Trad women excepted). They are looking for genuine, giving, family oriented, humble women and there are much more of them in Eastern Europe, Asia, & Latin America.

 That gets to the heart of the matter. Although I have heard some Asian women are as bad as American womyn.

[charlesh]

It seems like a worldwide phenomenon, why men tends to look outside their own countries for prospective brides?
I'm thinking of looking one myself outside my county, anyone here have any experiences to share?

Sure, but that "outside-your-own-country" is a pretty broad canvas. What I have loved about Latin ladies is their unabashed femininity. They just revel in being women. For me, that gets a lot of points. I've never been much attracted to the masculinity and I-can-be-a-man-just-like-you vibe that I get with a lot of American women. Plus, latinas just know how to walk. But that fits into the whole accentuation of the feminine. Actually, American women can be like that, too. You just have to look for the ones who aren't tainted from the 60's movement. (Or look for one that was in her 20's before the 60's movement started. But that's kinda weird.)

My first girlfriend was from Paris. She, too, was very feminine, and versed in the seductive arts that seem to pervade that culture. She was so sweet and feminine--like an affectionate kitten or a rose petal.

The language factor is a huge issue. It's hard to have a serious, urgent discussion in pidgeon English or pidgeon Spanish or pidgeon Hungarian. But it's entirely doable. On the other hand, when you stick your foot in your mouth and hurt her feelings, I've gotten off more than once on, "You must have misunderstood." But let me tell you something: I would much rather have a girl who spoke the same language as me. It's actually really important. Just imagine having to repeat everything you say, the second time a little slower, for the next 10 years. It makes everything harder.

Having said all that, I wouldn't ever consciously look for a woman on the basis of where she's from. It's a little too much like mail-order brides. Get a good Catholic girl who's a good fit. If she's right for you, then it doesn't matter where she's from. Just thinking out loud--: Mexico has a population that is very Catholic and very traditional-minded. I'd think you'd have a big pool of real, Catholic women to mingle with. Great culture, too. Go get a job in Vera Cruz. I had a friend who did that and came back with a wife and a kid.

Me, I'd stick with English-as-a-first-language if I had a choice.