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« on: July 26, 2008, 01:07:PM » |
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I have an eight-month-old daughter who has slept in our bed from the day she came home from the hospital. Yes, at three days old she refused the Arms-Reach Co-Sleeper and had to be directly in my arms in order to go to sleep. This worked well at first, but now for several reasons I need to get her to sleep in her crib. She is a very intense, affectionate baby who needs to be held a LOT and can go on crying for a very, very long time, so I know this will not be easy on her (or me, or her father). Does anyone have any experience with making this transition? |
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Johanna
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« Reply #1 on: July 26, 2008, 02:27:PM » |
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I always put my babies in a crib when they fall asleep in the evening, and then bring them into the bed the first time they wake up during the night. Eventually they sleep through the night and don't come into bed at all.
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« Reply #2 on: July 26, 2008, 09:59:PM » |
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I always put my babies in a crib when they fall asleep in the evening, and then bring them into the bed the first time they wake up during the night. Eventually they sleep through the night and don't come into bed at all.
Ditto. I have nine kids and they have all been family -bedded. Some get out of it earlier than others..some will sleep longer in the crib before coming into bed with me, while others basically spend all night with me. Things will work themselves out...even time for intimacy! Christina |
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« Reply #3 on: July 26, 2008, 10:12:PM » |
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I have found with my 4 kids that any major change as infants took about three days (give or take depending on personality) of being miserable until they settle in to it. This was the case for #3 who has a somewhat challenging (read stubborn) personality, too. This week I'm transitioning the one year old to sharing a room with her sister to make space for the baby. She is not happy! So, she cries a little, then I go and soothe her and put her back in the crib, and then she cries some more, and on it goes. So, she knows that I'm there, but that she still has to go back in the crib. It was a couple of hours of misery tonight. But, in my experience the patience pays off and in the morning they are as happy as ever.
I love sleeping with them when they are newborn. They smell so good, and you can hear them breathing, and you can nurse them and still pretty much be sleeping. It can be a tough transition for both of you!
I hope it goes smoothly!
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« Reply #4 on: July 26, 2008, 11:05:PM » |
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I started mine out by letting them nap in the crib and put a few toys in that they liked to make it "friendly." Soon we worked up to night time in the crib, it was hard and there was some crying but more of it was from me when I missed the baby there. That was with my first baby though  |
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« Reply #5 on: July 28, 2008, 02:09:PM » |
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Our babies have always slept with my wife and I. They generally go to their own bed between 2-3 years old. It is so much easier for a nursing mom to just "latch-on" and go right back to sleep this way. Do not feel any guilt over sleeping with your children; our culture is one of the few in the world where it is not the norm. |
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« Reply #6 on: July 28, 2008, 02:16:PM » |
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Our babies have always slept with my wife and I. They generally go to their own bed between 2-3 years old. It is so much easier for a nursing mom to just "latch-on" and go right back to sleep this way. Do not feel any guilt over sleeping with your children; our culture is one of the few in the world where it is not the norm. That's how we did it with ours, too. |
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« Reply #7 on: July 28, 2008, 02:17:PM » |
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My babies go to bed by themselves at first, then i bring them to bed when they wake up at night to feed. I normally do that till they are old enough to sleep through the night (i do that at 12 months, but its really whatever works for you) I had the same prob at first, so what i have done, is had a bassinette in my living room, and laid the baby down in it every time they fall asleep, even if its for a short time (a play pen works too, for bigger babies) they will probably be up alot and fussy about it at first, but they do get used to it after a few days. Then they are used to sleeping on their own. Also, i have to make the babies cry it out sumtimes, ive done that with my 2 oldest, it was tough, but they usually learn after 2-3 days. I just lay them in bed, make sure theres nothing they can hurt themselves on, and let em cry. It was about an hour the first night, half hour the second, then maybe 5 minutes for a couple days, then nothing! Good luck |
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« Reply #8 on: July 28, 2008, 02:55:PM » |
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It was about an hour the first night, half hour the second, then maybe 5 minutes for a couple days, then nothing! Good luck Good luck is right! With my first son, it was 6.5 hours the first night! |
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« Reply #9 on: July 28, 2008, 03:32:PM » |
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It was about an hour the first night, half hour the second, then maybe 5 minutes for a couple days, then nothing! Good luck Good luck is right! With my first son, it was 6.5 hours the first night! WOAH!!!! your tough! i woulda totally caved at 2  |
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