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SanctiDominici
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« on: August 25, 2009, 12:54:PM » |
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When I go out with my husband and 4 children people look at me like Im an alien. Ive had people rude enough to come up to me and ask "so when will you be done". In other words, "how many kids are you gonna have lady?"Does this happen to any other women here with big families? It makes me so angry and I just feel like cracking them in the head saying "none of your damn business". I know thats unchristian like but im Italian and Sicilian . Its all about cracking someone with us  |
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« Reply #1 on: August 25, 2009, 02:14:PM » |
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When I had THREE kids, I was told "Wow, you really need to stop!" by a complete stranger on the street.  |
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People talk vaguely about the innocence of a little child, but they take mighty good care not to let it out of their sight for twenty minutes.-Saki.
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The Modernist's Prayer by R.A. Knox
O God, forasmuch as without Thee
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Help us all by Thy Grace
To convince the whole race
It knows nothing whatever about Thee.
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« Reply #2 on: August 25, 2009, 02:21:PM » |
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I was told when I had TWO, "I hope you are done now!" by a stranger in a book store. The children at the time were 3 and 2 and were quietly sitting it a double stroller. Now I have 8. The most common comment(s) I get now are: "Have you heard of the Duggars/Jon and Kate?"  I have found that once I hit #6 people were too dumbstruck to come up with anything nasty other than the original and oh so witty: Don't you know what causes that? or Don't you have a TV? or You know they can fix it so that doesn't happen anymore. I have standard lines I use such as "Why fix what isn't broken?" "Of course we know what causes it, don't you? Would you like me to explain it to you" or "Yes we know, and we are really really good at it" "Making babies is a lot more fun than watching TV" You just learn to roll with it. I probably get at least 5 "You are so blessed!" or "What a beautiful family!" for every ignorant or rude comment. |
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« Reply #3 on: August 25, 2009, 02:21:PM » |
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I'm a dad of 7, but ever since I even announced to people that my wife was pregnant with third, I get "How many are you planning on having?" I just answer back, as many as God wants. That usually shuts them up.
We are not all out at once anymore since some of my oldest are teenagers and can stay at home with the little ones while mom and I go shopping, so this does not happen too much anymore.
But on the other side, I have had people say that it must be cool and fun to have so many children. I wished I had more siblings when I grew up. I just had a sister and it was boring in my house.
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« Reply #4 on: August 25, 2009, 02:58:PM » |
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There were four of us, and I always wished we had a few more for a decent game of baseball. I still hate ghost runners.
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« Reply #5 on: August 25, 2009, 03:10:PM » |
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I got that by number two--"You're not having any more, are you?" We are at number four now and I haven't heard much lately, especially since the youngest is 9--people don't seem to care how many you have when they are older for some reason, so maybe it's a dislike of youngsters more than anything. It's a thought. But I'm sure it will start back up again if God blesses us with another child. Too bad! |
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« Reply #6 on: August 25, 2009, 03:14:PM » |
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Tell them that a society needs to have 2.1 children per woman to sustain itself. Since people like them shirk at it, it is people who not abusing their bodies who are used by the future generations.
If a society does not sustain itself, it will end up having too many old people at once, and that is bad for all.
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« Reply #7 on: August 25, 2009, 03:39:PM » |
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He's a Protestant and full of plenty of heresies, but I still love what Reformed pastor Mark Driscoll says when asked (he's the father of five) where children come from: "A delightful wife" -- with a meaningful look at the far-from-delightful speaker. I guess women can substitute "A strong, virile, passionate husband," if asked this offensive question.
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« Reply #8 on: August 25, 2009, 04:34:PM » |
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When I had THREE kids, I was told "Wow, you really need to stop!" by a complete stranger on the street. Let me guess. You were in the Northeast or California when this occured? |
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AntoniusMaximus
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« Reply #9 on: August 25, 2009, 04:37:PM » |
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You know, I am not married and thus don't have any children right now, but I kind of look down on families who don't have more than two children. Many of the families I know are quite capable of supporting more children financially, but they have just drunk the kool-aid that children are a burden and need to be limited and so on.
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