Why do people look down on large families

[Felicitas]

You know, I am not married and thus don't have any children right now, but I kind of look down on families who don't have more than two children.  Many of the families I know are quite capable of supporting more children financially, but they have just drunk the kool-aid that children are a burden and need to be limited and so on. 

Unless they have shared with you the reasons why their families are small, please don't think badly of them. My husband and I only have one child, but it is because I am older: we didn't marry until I was 35 and our boy didn't get here until I was 39. More children would be wonderful, but because of my age and circumstances there's a good chance it won't happen.

Aw, don't feel badly. The Blessed mother only had one, too. So you're in great company. 

   Thank you, that is sweet.

[introibo]

Why do people look down on larger families? because it's harder for mom to go back to work.

My daughter's six year old friend is over, and she's watching me work around the kitchen then she says to me, "My mom's a lawyer and she makes two hundred cash an hour." :o
And I'm like, well cripes I can make pizza, I can make chocolate chip cookies and lemon aid.... 

And when that girl is an adult, she won't remember that her mom made $200 an hour, but she will remember having cookies and lemonade at your house, lovingly made by you, instead of storebought junk.

Christina

[introibo]

seriously, if people ask me that "when are you gonna stop" my answer now is a very dry "when we have an ugly one"

Ha!  I've gotta share that one with my brother (5 kids) and my sister (just had her fifth on Monday).  I'm sure they'll get a chance to use it.

and stuff can be reused; bedrooms can be shared.  As someone pointed out, the 1-2 child people spend such huge amounts of money today keeping their kids (and themselves) in toys, sports, and other activities, that just scaling that stuff back to a sane level should make it possible to afford more kids.  If there are grandparents and aunts and uncles, they can help too.  My sister had to make her in-laws stop bringing over so many toys and clothes because they ran out of room for it all.

My folks raised four kids on a farm with not a lot of money.  We didn't go on vacation, and we didn't eat brand-name cereals.  I never got the Star Wars figures and model trains I wanted back then, but we got nice things (always things that would last) for birthdays and Christmas, so I never thought we were poor, I just understood you don't always get everything you want and parents know best.  We went to Church on Sunday and were involved in 4-H, and ate well from our garden and livestock.  If someone lived like that now, they'd be able to afford a lot more kids than the people who think each kid has to have a room full of electronic gadgets and must be hauled 30-60 miles every day or two to a game or performance of some sort.

Thats right! Years back lots of people had big families. It was the norm and they made do and got by fine. Ive told people Im evening out the muslim population. I read somwhere that soon the muslim faith and people will out number the catholics all over the world. The muslim population outright admitted that christians are not having children and will be outnumbered soon and islam will be the most popular faith in the world because we stopped having large families and there are tons of abortions

Its in a VERY good book, called America Alone. And yes, thats one of the things i say too.They city i live in is predominantly Muslim...in the neighbourhood next to me, there is 3 mosques. So thats what i say too, just evening out the numbers. Anyways, im tired of the comments, but i hope my kids grow up to be very proud of where they come from. Its funny too, my friends that are always on my case about what i do,becaue of finances, are all WAY broker then us, with our millions of kids.

Mark Steyn is great!
Christina

[ErinIsNice]

And when that girl is an adult, she won't remember that her mom made $200 an hour, but she will remember having cookies and lemonade at your house, lovingly made by you, instead of storebought junk.

Maybe her mom doesn't give her storebought junk?  Being a lawyer doesn't mean you don't love your kids and do nice mom-ish things for them. 

[The_Harlequin_King]

I'm okay with large families that are Catholic. Large families that are non-Catholic do make me suspicious for some reason.

[introibo]

And when that girl is an adult, she won't remember that her mom made $200 an hour, but she will remember having cookies and lemonade at your house, lovingly made by you, instead of storebought junk.

Maybe her mom doesn't give her storebought junk?  Being a lawyer doesn't mean you don't love your kids and do nice mom-ish things for them. 

I doubt that a partner in a law firm, working the kind of hours she does, has the time very often to make chocolate chip cookies.  Just from my experience when I worked in the real world in an accounting firm....
If she can make the time to do stuff with her child, great for her.  I'm just pretty sure that that little girl would appreciate her mommy being around a lot more than she is.
Christina

[CanadianCatholic]

I'm okay with large families that are Catholic. Large families that are non-Catholic do make me suspicious for some reason.

HAHA thats too funny! I tend to agree through, i see a big white family, thats not Catholic, i wonder....why??

[The_Harlequin_King]

And when that girl is an adult, she won't remember that her mom made $200 an hour, but she will remember having cookies and lemonade at your house, lovingly made by you, instead of storebought junk.

I gotta be honest with you folks, cookies and lemonade are cool, but I'd be totally fine with my mom making $200 an hour instead. Just think how many steaks that can buy.

[leome]

I just ask... "I'm sorry, and how is this your business?" it shuts them up!

[Rosarium]

I just ask... "I'm sorry, and how is this your business?" it shuts them up!

I'd be meaner. I'd immediately agree and ask them which ones I should get rid of. And then I'd wait for an answer.

(I don't have kids).