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« Reply #50 on: December 18, 2010, 04:05:PM » |
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If a female doesn't take the individual initiative to get her crap together in her late teens and early twenties (learning domesticity), then she's doomed. It is probably a factor of laziness and being spoiled. Both boys and girls are horribly spoiled. So it is easy for the girl to become a feminist, then she doesn't have to do mundane housework. And the guy can forget about supporting a family. He can take an easy low paying job, live in a trailer and play video games. The loss of the work ethic is appalling. |
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« Reply #51 on: December 18, 2010, 04:08:PM » |
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Women who want emasculated men generally have huge hostility issues with masculinity ...... or are just too scared of their normal natural dependency on a real man. hmmmmmm..... |
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"God's Wrath is Glorious, and I have a front row seat"
"We can not guarantee success. We can only deserve it."
"And who do you say that I Am?"
"That one simple question, whether Jesus of Nazareth was God Incarnate, becomes increasingly decisive between people, as history moves forward. .... The answer to this question cuts into human ties and seems to reflect even on the nature of inanimate things. What if: all that is folly in the eyes of the Greeks, and scandal in the eyes of the Jews, ... is Truth?"
And there was no doubt about it -- towards Him we had been running, or from Him we had been running away, but all the time He had been in the center of things.
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James02
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« Reply #52 on: December 18, 2010, 04:14:PM » |
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Romanticism in general leads to unrealistic expectations and disillusionment. It's important to be realistic about things no matter what. Don't sell Romanticism and Idealism too short, and this is coming from a man who is up there with Jews at being a realist. Romanticism and Idealism, when taken in moderation, give us goals to work for. On the other side, hyper realism can lead to criminal behaviour. Rules and laws are quickly discarded to meet the goal. I always found I work best when surrounded by idealists, as they moderate my realism. I'll give you a real world example, contract negotiations. A realist just wants to get the contract done and get to work. This can lead to major problems later on in a project when conflicts arise. An idealist can be too sticky to clauses and regulations during negotiations, and can piss off the client when it really isn't necessary. If you let an idealist lead the contract negotiations, you will never get a contract. So you need a balance. Yes, realism, which is tied in tightly with the virtue of prudence, is very important. But idealism/romanticism is also important. Edit: A realist tends to be an execution animal. Give him a goal, and he will go kill it. An idealist tends to be a systems man. He will take time to set up proper systems to run things. Both are important. |
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"God's Wrath is Glorious, and I have a front row seat"
"We can not guarantee success. We can only deserve it."
"And who do you say that I Am?"
"That one simple question, whether Jesus of Nazareth was God Incarnate, becomes increasingly decisive between people, as history moves forward. .... The answer to this question cuts into human ties and seems to reflect even on the nature of inanimate things. What if: all that is folly in the eyes of the Greeks, and scandal in the eyes of the Jews, ... is Truth?"
And there was no doubt about it -- towards Him we had been running, or from Him we had been running away, but all the time He had been in the center of things.
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« Reply #53 on: December 18, 2010, 04:26:PM » |
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By the way, since College Catholic is a senior at a prestigious engineering university with a male/female ratio of 4:1, I think it would be wise for eligible ladies to make friends with him and get some introductions.
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"God's Wrath is Glorious, and I have a front row seat"
"We can not guarantee success. We can only deserve it."
"And who do you say that I Am?"
"That one simple question, whether Jesus of Nazareth was God Incarnate, becomes increasingly decisive between people, as history moves forward. .... The answer to this question cuts into human ties and seems to reflect even on the nature of inanimate things. What if: all that is folly in the eyes of the Greeks, and scandal in the eyes of the Jews, ... is Truth?"
And there was no doubt about it -- towards Him we had been running, or from Him we had been running away, but all the time He had been in the center of things.
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« Reply #54 on: December 18, 2010, 04:38:PM » |
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...but neither can I approve of you insinuating that no man -- or no good man -- would want to marry a woman that age.... I didn't insinuate that! |
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« Reply #55 on: December 18, 2010, 04:43:PM » |
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Romanticism in general leads to unrealistic expectations and disillusionment. It's important to be realistic about things no matter what. Don't sell Romanticism and Idealism too short... I don't think romanticism and idealism are the same thing. I am thinking of romanticism as believing things are or will be better or easier than they actually are. Idealism I would say is wanting to make things perfect or as good as they can possibly be. And I agree that a certain amount of idealism is important in business or personal relationships. |
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« Reply #56 on: December 18, 2010, 05:10:PM » |
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It's not always media that push the romantic notion of life...sometimes it's parental attitude...where girls are taught to be overachievers in all areas of life except home economics (which she is told comes natural to women...so no need to prepare)...which means that even if she wants to leave her career to bring up the children...she lacks the skills to cope with the sundry duties of a housewife (plenty of women have never been taught home economy, meal planning, cooking, cleaning, etc. etc. etc...and yet...many young women think that a housewife's job is easy...or at least should be...to pick up at the drop of a hat...and can wait until after the first baby comes along...which just isn't true). That's why you have women who file for divorce because the man isn't helping out enough at home...she finds herself overwhelmed...and has no one (usually) to turn to for help except...her helpmate...who often shares a similarly absurd romantic notion of life (and thus does not understand why she is having trouble adapting and performing the tasks required of her).
That is very much what my experience was. From my earliest memories I was identified as very bright and headed for a career. That was always the focus of my expectations and training. I started out marriage and (a year later) motherhood inadequately prepared for my duties and, even after all these years, I don't feel that I've properly caught up. I am just not very good at the most important things I do. |
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ADORABLE Saviour, consider my many wants, and grant me those graces which Thou knowest I stand in need of to do Thy will in all things.
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« Reply #57 on: December 18, 2010, 08:54:PM » |
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Feminism? What's that? I point at a woman and she follows me. If not, I club her in the head and drag her back to the castle. Should I believe anything's changed?
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« Reply #58 on: December 18, 2010, 08:59:PM » |
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« Reply #59 on: December 18, 2010, 09:11:PM » |
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Feminism? What's that? I point at a woman and she follows me. If not, I club her in the head and drag her back to the castle. Should I believe anything's changed?
Club her? Don't you mean you tap her smartly over the head with your filigreed walking stick after smacking her across the face with your embroidered gauntlet that reeks sweetly of eau de toilette? |
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