Wow, this has been an intense thread. I think it is a clear demonstration how EVERYONE needs to take sins against chastity with the utmost seriousness.
I have always maintained that the Church will be rebuilt upon this one virtue alone. The Lily of the virtues, the one that is despised the most, the least of the virtues in this world, the one that is mocked even by serious Catholics, is surely the greatest in our Lord's divine vision.
This is an issue that I have found defines my whole identity as a man, one that strikes to the very core of what masculinity is.
Whatever masculinity is, I want to be it. If it's pumping iron, killing people, having sex with a million women, stuffing my veins with drugs, robbing millions in an investment bank, I DON'T CARE, I want to be a man, I want to be what I was born to be.
If it was not for the grace of God, any or all of the above could be happening in my life. Perhaps I would have killed myself somewhere in the middle having discovered how totally unfulfilling all of those 'triumphs' are.
Chastity is a gift I pray for, because I know it is totally a gift from God and that if left to my own devices I would be swimming in a sewer.
I'm a virgin, 25 yrs old. It does hurt me thinking that my future wife has been sleeping around, worse still is thinking that I could have prayed for her and kept her safe during years when I was only thinking about myself, but didn't.
I'm also a die-hard man of chivalry, and wish to live up to the chivalrous ideal of man, even if I'm the only one left in the world doing it, because to give up on these little things is to give up on life itself.
I think Jason Evert is a saint and a living ideal of what men should strive for today. He, a virgin and man of faith, married a girl who had lived a promiscuous life. He did it, because she was sent from God. He waited for his sign, the Lord revealed his intentions, he didn't let his pride take a hold of him, and he just did what needed to be done for his salvation.
I'm grateful God hasn't wished for me to suffer in that Soviet camp, St Dominic_Salvo, in that book you read "In God and Russia"! He could easily have willed that.
These issues are live wires though. I've had two grown 'macho' men in their late twenties crying before me over relationship issues in the last year. Playing with sex is like playing with an atom bomb, for both men and women, although men can not so subtly bottle it up and become violent or depressed.
My two cents. I'm posting this purposely without thinking about or editing what I've said like I normally do, because it comes from the heart, a heart that only finds peace in this wretched world in Christ.