kingtheoden
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« Reply #1 on: April 13, 2012, 09:57:PM » |
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Hey gurl, wanna grab some coffee? What I don't know is how to tell her that since we've gotten to know each other more, she stands out as the most beautiful, practically Catholic, and well-informed lady at our TLM church. How do you say to someone that you can't stop thinking about her and want to see her more? I'm afraid I'm being too nonchalant and might send a false signal of indifference.
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« Reply #2 on: April 13, 2012, 09:59:PM » |
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Hey gurl, wanna grab some coffee? What I don't know is how to tell her that since we've gotten to know each other more, she stands out as the most beautiful, practically Catholic, and well-informed lady at our TLM church. How do you say to someone that you can't stop thinking about her and want to see her more? I'm afraid I'm being too nonchalant and might send a false signal of indifference.
Don't say that. Yeah dude. Don't tell her those kind of feelings unless it's already clear to both of you that you're involved in some degree. Ask her out on a date. Ease it on. You don't want to come across by telling her she's the answer to your prayers, even if she is. It'll scare her away or give her the upper hand. Just my thoughts. |
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« Reply #3 on: April 13, 2012, 10:20:PM » |
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Just ask her if she'd like to hang out some time. Go get lunch after Mass, or invite her out for a drink. The idea of formal, fancy dates always seemed weird to me. If I like someone I just enjoy spending relaxed time with them and getting to know them informally. Formality with friendship or romance feels weird and unnatural to me. But I dunno, maybe Catholic girls in the USA have different expectations and a nice dinner somewhere will really make her feel special, but that seems like the kind of 'date' which you go on after you've already gotten to know each other a bit. So I suggest just inviting her out for coffee or lunch or a drink at a bar to just talk and get to know each other. If she seems friendly towards you then it shouldn't be too hard.
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kingtheoden
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« Reply #4 on: April 13, 2012, 10:53:PM » |
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CC and Mith,
Point very well taken; of course that's not spoken. The context here doesn't lend to what I was trying to convey, that the situation feels very different and that will suffice. I thought that would come across better than it did.
My post was more directed to couples (married) who have gone through that initial awkard phase. I'm not really interested in other singles' advice.
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« Reply #5 on: April 13, 2012, 11:15:PM » |
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CC and Mith,
Point very well taken; of course that's not spoken. The context here doesn't lend to what I was trying to convey, that the situation feels very different and that will suffice. I thought that would come across better than it did.
My post was more directed to couples (married) who have gone through that initial awkard phase. I'm not really interested in other singles' advice.
Gotcha. I would still recommend shying away from showing her the situation is any different or means more than two people getting to know each other and one has a romantic interest. Girls don't like clingy/needy (and if they do, run). But, best of luck. |
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« Reply #6 on: April 14, 2012, 12:39:PM » |
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CC and Mith,
Point very well taken; of course that's not spoken. The context here doesn't lend to what I was trying to convey, that the situation feels very different and that will suffice. I thought that would come across better than it did.
My post was more directed to couples (married) who have gone through that initial awkard phase. I'm not really interested in other singles' advice.
Gotcha. I would still recommend shying away from showing her the situation is any different or means more than two people getting to know each other and one has a romantic interest. Girls don't like clingy/needy (and if they do, run). But, best of luck. That's pretty sound. It's the game that drives me nuts. |
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« Reply #7 on: April 14, 2012, 07:03:PM » |
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It's the game that drives me nuts.
It's not a game. Just ask her out. |
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« Reply #8 on: April 14, 2012, 07:19:PM » |
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"Courtship"?
Unless you're asking her father's permission to see her, you'll just be dating her.
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"THE LORD is my light and my salvation, whom shall I fear? The Lord is the protector of my life: of whom shall I be afraid?" (Psalm 26:1)
"And we, too, being called by His will in Christ Jesus, are not justified by ourselves, nor by our own wisdom, or understanding, or godliness, or works which we have wrought in holiness of heart; but by that faith through which, from the beginning, Almighty God has justified all men; to whom be glory for ever and ever. Amen." — Clement, bishop of Rome
"I love truth," says he, "and not sects. I am sometimes a peripatetic, a stoic, or an academician, and often none of them; but—always a Christian. To philosophise is to love wisdom; and the true wisdom is Jesus Christ. Let us read the historians, the poets, and the philosophers; but let us have in our hearts the gospel of Jesus Christ, in which alone is perfect wisdom and perfect happiness." — Petrarch
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« Reply #9 on: April 14, 2012, 09:18:PM » |
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"Courtship"?
Unless you're asking her father's permission to see her, you'll just be dating her.
Good sir, I request your daughter's hand in matrimony.  It's the game that drives me nuts.
It's not a game. Just ask her out. Right.  |
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